A distraught lady writes: "I'm approaching the first anniversary of my divorce and I'm still struggling with so much anger, pain and even guilt over what I could have done differently to make my husband stay. He left me for another woman and I just can't seem to let go of all these negative emotions. I don't know how to move beyond all this."

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There is no point in trying to relive the past as if you can change it now. The important thing is that God is giving you the present with each new day to enjoy and together these new days comprise a future. I encourage you to put your hand firmly in God's hand and keep moving forward. He will give you what you need for each new day.

There might come a time when it would be useful to reflect on your own past attitudes and actions for the sake of your own personal growth. But you cannot do that profitably while flooded with negative emotions. Both healing and forgiveness are ours through Jesus' substitutionary death. If you have not done so already, sincerely thank God for Jesus' sacrifice, tell him all the details of your pain and guilt, then walk by faith into a new quality of life based on Jesus' resurrection from the dead.

You can also turn your anger over to God. Bring him your complaints about your ex-husband, the "other woman" and anyone else who has harmed you. You cannot sort out everyone's guilt but God can. Tell him you are leaving that with him as the Judge of the universe. Ask him to pour his forgiveness into your heart and to replace your anger with his peace. He will do it!

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